If you are fed up with your child's aggressive, obnoxious and abusive behavior, you may have decided to buy a child behavior program. How do you choose one which is valid and which will give results?
First piece of advice. Don't expect immediate results as your kid's behavior is ingrained and has been a problem for years. You have to give it time and you need to persist with the program. There will be setbacks but if you stick with it, you will see fantastic results. You can allow anything from two to six months to start seeing results.
Secondly,make sure that there is a three months trial period. A child behavior program which is of decent quality will have that. Also check to see what support services they offer. Is there a helpline? Are there blogs and forums where you can swap stories and get advice from other parents. Once you start seeing the results and experiences of other parents, you will be encouraged to go on.
Finally look at the timescale of the course. Does that suit you both? Can you download it. Are there MP3 facilities and other ways to make it easier to be a regular part of your family's life. You can also see if the program has been written by a respected and well known behavior therapist and what qualifications they have.
I know families who have given this type of child behavior program a fair trial and they have worked through it and seen some great results and are much happier as families.Isn't it time you tried it because at the end of the day, no pills are going to teach child behavior.
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Sunday, November 15, 2009
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Children of Excess…….Are We Giving Our Children Too Much? by Iris Shamble
Giving our children too much can very well set them up for disappointments later in life. We have to raise not only responsible children, but children who are allowed to work for what they desire in order to help build self confidence and self-esteem in their life.
Copyright (c) 2007 Iris Shamble
Too many children take life so easy; they don't know what it means to work hard to acquire their desires. They are handed everything they want much too easy. We are in a generation of excess. They want it all, and they want it now! According to Teen Newsweek, October 11, 2004, 30 percent of parents say that brand preference is of "major importance" to their kids. It is sad that many parents let the fad of the generation keep them in debt for their children. Is this only to impress?
In the same study, 75 percent of parents say their kids do fewer chores than children did 10 years ago. In 2003, 12 to 19-year-olds spent roughly $175 billion or $53 billion more than in 1997, according to Teen Research Unlimited. Some psychologists say that parents who overindulge their kids may be setting them up for future anxiety and depression. Recent studies show that kids who were given too much too soon often have difficulty coping with life's disappointments as adults. I often see parents allowing their children to make their own decisions about clothing as well as where they go and who they go with. Allowing our children to work less and get more, I will say is a big set up for them later in life. We must show discipline in every area of our lives. Disciple has to be in shopping, eating, working, and even thing simple as just talking.
Everything we do should always be done with a balance and in love. Consistency is necessary. Proper discipline brings lasting results to both child and parent. We discipline our children to save them pain and disappointment. A lot of us have disciplined our children without realizing why we did it. When our children ask us why we make decisions concerning them, our famous answer is, "Because I told you so." Now what kind of answer is that? We have to be open and honest with our children, most of all we must be stern and firm in our decisions.
Guidelines to Live By
We have standards and guidelines in our home, and while our girls are there with us, they will have to abide by them. If clothing seems to be too revealing, I tell them if you are willing to show it, you may be willing to give it away. My girls on occasion have made comments like, "Well everybody does it," and I kindly say to them, "Well, you're not!" I tell them they will be accountable for their actions and stand in judgment one day for every decision made. We all will. You don't want to shorten your blessings and days on earth by following what others are doing when you know the right thing to do. It's not worth it!
As parents, don't settle for simple parenting because you feel it will hurt your child's feelings. We have to put those feelings out of the way and stick to what we feel in our heart is best for our child. What is good for Johnny down the street may not be good for my child. Therefore, we have to do what rest in our heart and stick with what is comfortable with the decisions we make while raising our children.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
For a full resource of work at home information and inspiration, visit: http://www.achristianmothersguide.com The Ultimate Baby & Resource Guide: http://www.parentingguide.biz
Copyright (c) 2007 Iris Shamble
Too many children take life so easy; they don't know what it means to work hard to acquire their desires. They are handed everything they want much too easy. We are in a generation of excess. They want it all, and they want it now! According to Teen Newsweek, October 11, 2004, 30 percent of parents say that brand preference is of "major importance" to their kids. It is sad that many parents let the fad of the generation keep them in debt for their children. Is this only to impress?
In the same study, 75 percent of parents say their kids do fewer chores than children did 10 years ago. In 2003, 12 to 19-year-olds spent roughly $175 billion or $53 billion more than in 1997, according to Teen Research Unlimited. Some psychologists say that parents who overindulge their kids may be setting them up for future anxiety and depression. Recent studies show that kids who were given too much too soon often have difficulty coping with life's disappointments as adults. I often see parents allowing their children to make their own decisions about clothing as well as where they go and who they go with. Allowing our children to work less and get more, I will say is a big set up for them later in life. We must show discipline in every area of our lives. Disciple has to be in shopping, eating, working, and even thing simple as just talking.
Everything we do should always be done with a balance and in love. Consistency is necessary. Proper discipline brings lasting results to both child and parent. We discipline our children to save them pain and disappointment. A lot of us have disciplined our children without realizing why we did it. When our children ask us why we make decisions concerning them, our famous answer is, "Because I told you so." Now what kind of answer is that? We have to be open and honest with our children, most of all we must be stern and firm in our decisions.
Guidelines to Live By
We have standards and guidelines in our home, and while our girls are there with us, they will have to abide by them. If clothing seems to be too revealing, I tell them if you are willing to show it, you may be willing to give it away. My girls on occasion have made comments like, "Well everybody does it," and I kindly say to them, "Well, you're not!" I tell them they will be accountable for their actions and stand in judgment one day for every decision made. We all will. You don't want to shorten your blessings and days on earth by following what others are doing when you know the right thing to do. It's not worth it!
As parents, don't settle for simple parenting because you feel it will hurt your child's feelings. We have to put those feelings out of the way and stick to what we feel in our heart is best for our child. What is good for Johnny down the street may not be good for my child. Therefore, we have to do what rest in our heart and stick with what is comfortable with the decisions we make while raising our children.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
For a full resource of work at home information and inspiration, visit: http://www.achristianmothersguide.com The Ultimate Baby & Resource Guide: http://www.parentingguide.biz
Friday, November 6, 2009
For Parents of Children With Low Self Esteem
For children the development of self-esteem begins at an early age, and the way they feel can vary from one stage of development to another, depending on the circumstances of their lives.
For children with seriously low self-esteem, getting the right help is very important. For parents of children with low self-esteem it is very important to consider how our own behavior can influence their self regard.
Children feel reassured by parents who are calm, warm and loving. It is important to give children reassurance that helps them open up and explain how they feel. It is important to be sensitive when children feel they are not succeeding. Telling them how proud you are of their efforts, how much you think they have achieved, is better than telling them they will surely get in the team next time, or pass the exam next time.
Children will be facing lots of different new experiences of course and should have realistic expectations of their achievement. No child is going to win everything or be top at everything. Most of us don't get to be top at anything. Most of us are just regular people. Doing something to the best of our ability is what most of us aim for. Success in life is not about being the best. Success is about all sorts of things. Children need to know they are succeeding, so need to know about all the ways in which they can succeed.
It is always a good idea to praise children when they show that they are:
- Being good friends to other children
- Learning to value themselves and others
- Helping younger children as mentors
- Putting all their effort into new challenges
- Learning how to treat other people well
- Learning how to deal with coming second or third, or twenty third
- Learning the difference between good behavior and bad behavior
- Being able to deal with criticism
If children have low self esteem it can be hard for them to explain how they feel. This can be very difficult if they already feel they are failing, and not as good or clever as their friends. Gentle support will help children feel comfortable enough to tell you how they feel.
Children suffering from low self esteem can suffer badly. It is important to recognize signs of low self esteem in children, and to learn how best to help boost their confidence and help them deal with being regular kids and not necessarily top achievers.
Advice and help should be available in most schools, or though your local medical centre. If professional counseling is considered necessary, do listen to your child if they say they don't get on with the counselor - like all of us it is possible to get on well with some people but not others. This is even more important for children who can find it hard to talk about how they feel to adults they don't know.
For children with seriously low self-esteem, getting the right help is very important. For parents of children with low self-esteem it is very important to consider how our own behavior can influence their self regard.
Children feel reassured by parents who are calm, warm and loving. It is important to give children reassurance that helps them open up and explain how they feel. It is important to be sensitive when children feel they are not succeeding. Telling them how proud you are of their efforts, how much you think they have achieved, is better than telling them they will surely get in the team next time, or pass the exam next time.
Children will be facing lots of different new experiences of course and should have realistic expectations of their achievement. No child is going to win everything or be top at everything. Most of us don't get to be top at anything. Most of us are just regular people. Doing something to the best of our ability is what most of us aim for. Success in life is not about being the best. Success is about all sorts of things. Children need to know they are succeeding, so need to know about all the ways in which they can succeed.
It is always a good idea to praise children when they show that they are:
- Being good friends to other children
- Learning to value themselves and others
- Helping younger children as mentors
- Putting all their effort into new challenges
- Learning how to treat other people well
- Learning how to deal with coming second or third, or twenty third
- Learning the difference between good behavior and bad behavior
- Being able to deal with criticism
If children have low self esteem it can be hard for them to explain how they feel. This can be very difficult if they already feel they are failing, and not as good or clever as their friends. Gentle support will help children feel comfortable enough to tell you how they feel.
Children suffering from low self esteem can suffer badly. It is important to recognize signs of low self esteem in children, and to learn how best to help boost their confidence and help them deal with being regular kids and not necessarily top achievers.
Advice and help should be available in most schools, or though your local medical centre. If professional counseling is considered necessary, do listen to your child if they say they don't get on with the counselor - like all of us it is possible to get on well with some people but not others. This is even more important for children who can find it hard to talk about how they feel to adults they don't know.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
About Traveling With Children by Levi Quinn
Traveling with children can be challenging especially if proper arrangements are not made. As such, parents should pack the necessary things that not only keep the children comfortable, but busy during the journey. Failure to this, the children may become jittery and may even make the travel uncomfortable for other in the car. Worse still, the children may fail to enjoy the journey, which is every parent's nightmare. To make a smooth start, parents should buy the children new toys if the budget allows. The new toy should only be used, once everyone is in the car, as it will provide enough distraction to the children as a start off. Puppets, stuffed animals and dolls can also be parked especially if the children draw comfort from such during meal or nap times.
One should also park snacks, sandwiches and beverages that the children like to provide enough nourishment during the journey. Remember that unlike adults, children do not know how to control their hunger. In addition, spill-free bottles should be brought along as this makes drinking beverages less uneventful. A large cover should be spread where the children will be seated to catch any spills and food crumbs. The parent should avoid packing gravy foods, and instead park foods such as chips and other dry foods, which will cause minimal spills in the cat. Once they are fed, the children will most likely want to take a nap, as such, the parent should pack enough covers and pillows to make nap time in the car comfortable. It is also advisable to pack car games for the children to play with during the journey. If the car has a DVD player, entertaining DVD's will most likely provide the much-needed distraction to the children who may be bored by the long travel.
Blank papers, pencils, markers, crayons and books should also be packed for the older children. Hand-held video games are also a perfect inclusion for travel. Cartoon based DVD's are especially appealing to children. Alternatively, one can park different music CD's that the children. One should also pack enough clothes to last the children the entire time they will be away from home. Parents should be careful enough to check out the weather conditions in their travel destinations. This determines the kind of clothes they pack. One thing to remember is that despite the summer weathers in their destinations, warm clothes should be parked for any weather eventuality.
For children still on diapers, the parent should pack enough change of diapers and a good base cream to avoid the child developing diaper rush during travel. The diaper bag should be kept close enough to allow easy access to it whenever the need arises. A plastic bag to place the soiled diapers and wet clothes should also be carried. Wet paper wipes are also a vital travel necessity since they can be used to clean a soiled baby and even clean their hands during meal times and after meals and the messy faces. Despite the restricting nature of car seats, younger children should only travel in such, because safety of the children should come first. One can however reconsider the car seat rule if an adult is sitting beside the children during travel.
Have a fun and safe time on the road, and visit us to find the best deal on the insurance coverage you need. Get tips for finding auto coverage that you can afford at Auto Insurance Rates Direct today.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Levi_Quinn
One should also park snacks, sandwiches and beverages that the children like to provide enough nourishment during the journey. Remember that unlike adults, children do not know how to control their hunger. In addition, spill-free bottles should be brought along as this makes drinking beverages less uneventful. A large cover should be spread where the children will be seated to catch any spills and food crumbs. The parent should avoid packing gravy foods, and instead park foods such as chips and other dry foods, which will cause minimal spills in the cat. Once they are fed, the children will most likely want to take a nap, as such, the parent should pack enough covers and pillows to make nap time in the car comfortable. It is also advisable to pack car games for the children to play with during the journey. If the car has a DVD player, entertaining DVD's will most likely provide the much-needed distraction to the children who may be bored by the long travel.
Blank papers, pencils, markers, crayons and books should also be packed for the older children. Hand-held video games are also a perfect inclusion for travel. Cartoon based DVD's are especially appealing to children. Alternatively, one can park different music CD's that the children. One should also pack enough clothes to last the children the entire time they will be away from home. Parents should be careful enough to check out the weather conditions in their travel destinations. This determines the kind of clothes they pack. One thing to remember is that despite the summer weathers in their destinations, warm clothes should be parked for any weather eventuality.
For children still on diapers, the parent should pack enough change of diapers and a good base cream to avoid the child developing diaper rush during travel. The diaper bag should be kept close enough to allow easy access to it whenever the need arises. A plastic bag to place the soiled diapers and wet clothes should also be carried. Wet paper wipes are also a vital travel necessity since they can be used to clean a soiled baby and even clean their hands during meal times and after meals and the messy faces. Despite the restricting nature of car seats, younger children should only travel in such, because safety of the children should come first. One can however reconsider the car seat rule if an adult is sitting beside the children during travel.
Have a fun and safe time on the road, and visit us to find the best deal on the insurance coverage you need. Get tips for finding auto coverage that you can afford at Auto Insurance Rates Direct today.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Levi_Quinn
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Reading 101 - Teaching Your Young Child the Art of Reading by Ann Satchel
Most people would say that teaching a child to read is probably not too difficult. You start by teaching them the alphabet and then the different sounds of all the consonants and vowels. Eventually over time, it all works together and the child begins improving his or her reading skills. These first two steps are definitely things that your child must master and a lot of work is necessary to eventually achieve full reading skills.
If you really want your child to enjoy reading and ultimately writing as well, you need to start in the early years of their life. There are many things that you can do that makes it pleasurable as well as fun for your child. Also, the more you, as the parent, enjoy teaching and reading, the more your child will look at it as something worth doing. In addition, your child will love the attention that doing something together warrants.
Reading to your child often from infancy on lays the foundation for the skills they will need as readers. Your voice will become the instrument for teaching them the sounds of vowels and consonants (pronunciation), intonation, and rhythm (inflection). Reading with your children should be viewed as a positive experience or activity which continuously needs to be nurtured.
The other important skill that children must learn is good reading comprehension. At an early age, parents can ask simple questions such as pointing to different objects and colors. As the child develops more language skills, the questions can become more complex depending on their level of ability. Using the "w" words like why, which, when and where yield different types of conversations and can ensure that your child begins to not only be able to read but also understand what he or she is reading.
Teaching your child how to read can be a pleasurable experience. Try to introduce different types of books to your children, but definitely listen to what their preferences might be. If they enjoy the topics they're reading about, they'll want to continue to do it.
Ann Satchel has been writing articles about education for the last six years. She also enjoys writing about personal care topics like how to analyze different facial moisturizers and where to purchase Nivea Visage skin care products.
Ann Satchel
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ann_Satchel
If you really want your child to enjoy reading and ultimately writing as well, you need to start in the early years of their life. There are many things that you can do that makes it pleasurable as well as fun for your child. Also, the more you, as the parent, enjoy teaching and reading, the more your child will look at it as something worth doing. In addition, your child will love the attention that doing something together warrants.
Reading to your child often from infancy on lays the foundation for the skills they will need as readers. Your voice will become the instrument for teaching them the sounds of vowels and consonants (pronunciation), intonation, and rhythm (inflection). Reading with your children should be viewed as a positive experience or activity which continuously needs to be nurtured.
The other important skill that children must learn is good reading comprehension. At an early age, parents can ask simple questions such as pointing to different objects and colors. As the child develops more language skills, the questions can become more complex depending on their level of ability. Using the "w" words like why, which, when and where yield different types of conversations and can ensure that your child begins to not only be able to read but also understand what he or she is reading.
Teaching your child how to read can be a pleasurable experience. Try to introduce different types of books to your children, but definitely listen to what their preferences might be. If they enjoy the topics they're reading about, they'll want to continue to do it.
Ann Satchel has been writing articles about education for the last six years. She also enjoys writing about personal care topics like how to analyze different facial moisturizers and where to purchase Nivea Visage skin care products.
Ann Satchel
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ann_Satchel
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